- Don’t bother me. Instead, tell them why you can't attend to them right this moment.
- You're such a ____. Meaning, don't label them.
- Don't cry. Instead, address their specific feeling.
- Why can't you be more like ____. Instead, focus on their accomplishments.
- You know better than that. Hey, maybe they actually don't. Make it an opportunity to reinforce something.
- Stop or else ____. Instead, focus on positive reinforcement.
- Wait until Mommy/Daddy gets home. Instead, address the matter immediately.
- Hurry up! Instead, find calmer ways to speed things up.
- Great job or Good boy/girl! Surprised by this? Actually, this positive reinforcement is good as long as it is specific to something he/she said/did/etc.
- Don't bother me, especially at the middle or end of day when we're all particularly tired. I'm learning to tell him why I may need a few minutes/seconds of a break.
- You know better than that. I should know better than this. J's only 17 months! He's going to need reminding every time that outlets are not toys.
- Stop or else ____. Is counting to three any better? I should learn to redirect.
- Hurry up! Boy, do I say this every morning. I'm learning to remain calm though.
- Great job! I'm learning to praise him for specific things -- and being cute shouldn't be one of them because then he might connect his worthiness to his looks. I wonder if this is equally true for boys and girls...
What suggestions/confessions do you have?
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